There are things that seem so imperative at the moment. Irritations and frustrations might rise to the surface, but when this is brought to your attention, it is time to step back and reassess. Will any of this matter thirty years from now?
I recall the even-keeled demeanor of my grandpa, and how he seemed to get along with everyone. He never really had much stern or negative to say about people in general, and I only recall one time when he actually argued about politics with my aunt. People might say things he did not agree with, but in my presence he would reveal his real opinion because we were more like minded. Sometimes saying what you think with the like minded is a safe haven, and holding back when there is conflict is the strongest thing you can do.
A few years ago I thought that debating politics online would be a way to allow my introverted self to express my opinion more often. However, I decided to finally stop doing that because it made me feel drained. Debates and back and fourths about points do not always make the world a better place.
I often do have opinions, but I realized these need to be put in check. When I look at the mountains or the hills, sometimes I like to think about how momentary irritations are just that, and thirty years from now none of this will matter. The permanence of nature is what matters, and the best place to be is taking a walk admiring how the hills, or a large boulder was there a hundreds years ago, and will most likely be there a hundred years from now.
I want the courage of conviction not to say everything that pops into my head. I want the fortitude to just enjoy the moment. I find it when I focus and regroup. When I need to find balance and peace, I simply look to nature. Life is not perfect, but when you decide to focus on the basic and the serene things, you stop expecting so much. You start living more, and that can be a powerful thing.
My cat has simple expectations out of life. She loves to sleep and play in the bushes. I often tell her how lucky she is because she does not have to deal with the daunting traffic of riding a bike in Southern California, or the overly assertive driving techniques that some like to display towards a bicyclist. Perhaps thinking more like a cat or a bird would do me good. No need to get irritated just because some guy in an SUV cuts me off. When I find myself becoming annoyed at something, I just look up at the San Bernardino Mountains. The outline of the pine trees on its peaks helps to bring me back to feeling very good. The sun is out and the birds are tweeting today. Life is good, and it does not have to be so complicated.